Being a mom is something that makes me very happy, not only because I know my body's ability to create a new life, but because it is one of the most rewarding experiences I have had the opportunity to enjoy. But being a mother, at least for me, is not everything.
In addition to being a mother, I am a woman who has a desire to continue growing. That's why today I want to talk to you about why we should not feel guilty for being moms and at the same time, wish to perform personally.
Like most people, since I was a child I have dreams and I have looked for ways to fulfill them as much as possible, taking the opportunities presented to me and motivating me not to give up. I think it is an important part of our identity to pursue our goals, as well as those things that make us feel happy and full.
On several occasions I have talked about the importance of spending time with us when we are moms, how it benefits us and why we should not leave it for later, but keep it as one of our priorities in life.
In Babies and more Mother's fault: free yourself from that burden once and for allIf you follow the social networks of various media, you will surely have seen some publication of the speech recently given by actress Glenn Close, when she won the Golden Globe for best actress in a dramatic film and which has inspired me to write this article : we mothers have the right to perform personally.
In it, she mentions her mother, who when she turned 80 had told her that she felt that she had not achieved anything in life because she always depended on her husband, and the actress invites us to, in addition to being mothers, let's seek personal fulfillment and leave behind those thoughts that tell us that we cannot or are not allowed to do so. And I couldn't agree more with her.
Of course, for each person the "personal fulfillment" is different and perhaps for some women, being a mother is enough. But for those who are not, it should not be grounds for blame or judgment. As I have said on more than one occasion, if Mom is happy, her children will be happy too, and each one should look for what is best to achieve this.
When we become mothers, our priorities, lifestyle, routine and even our way of thinking, change completely. Sure, we are no longer the same person as before, but it's not about us forgetting ourselves, and that includes our well-being, our dreams and our desires.
Before we are mothers, we are women, not the other way around. In order to attend and care for others, we must do it first with us, otherwise, How do we intend to give them what we don't have? And it's not just about self-love, it's also about our desires and goals.
In my case, I want to teach my daughter that she is capable of being whatever she wants, to fight for what she wants and to follow her dreams. But I can't tell him or teach him that, if I give up my personal aspirations myself.
In Babies and more, why shouldn't we feel guilty of wanting time alone for ourselves?Now, this does not mean that those who feel full and fulfilled with their role as mother cannot teach them this, because what I mean by all this is: Let us be able to transmit and show our children not to abandon their dreams, whatever they may be.. And what better, than with the example, whether our greatest aspiration is to be a mother, executive, writer, chef, pilot, academic or whatever our dream in life is.
Each person has a different concept of what they need to feel fully happy, and I need something else. Why I'm a mom and I love it, but it's not the only thing that I am and I shouldn't feel guilty for thinking like that. Treating me as a priority, taking care of myself, loving me and continuing to pursue my dreams or my ideals personally does not make me a bad mother, it simply makes me a person who wishes to be well with herself.
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