As he told in the first part of this story, José Carlos is, as he calls himself, a “maternal dad”, a father actively involved in raising his three sons.
A father model that, fortunately, we are seeing emerge, which concerns both the daily care of their children and their emotional development.
7 years ago, when his eldest son Joaquin was 4 and his second son Oscar had just been born, his life changed. Between the option of seeing her children grow from outside or getting involved in her upbringing, she decided to accept the challenge of raising her children with the nature of a mother and recovering lost time.
19 months ago Gabriel, his third son, was born, who has been stimulated from the womb and especially motivated since his conception.
He deals daily with giving and preparing their integral food, exercising with them, bathing them, making them sleep and taking care of them with the same patience and love that a mother would do.
He is convinced that children must be comforted and not silenced, that failures are teachings, that diplomas and good grades are not as important as self-improvement and social skills learned.
The challenge of being a father led him to rediscover the boundaries of his childhood, to compare his forgotten early years with those of his children and to be clear about what he would repeat with them and what not.
His experience has led him to (almost) agree with the theory of Judith Rich Harris, author of The Myth of Education, that parents do not mold our children; but they themselves and their surroundings are the architects of their evolution.
Those who are interested in knowing more about the history and feel identified with its concepts, you can register on the website PapásMaternales, “a community for male parents, raising male children, without guilt or machisms”, where they will be delivering chapters of a manual that He is preparing about raising children.
