Home clocks mark the same time for all family members. However, it is the parents who control the time and schedules the most, and those who also want to control the lives of our children, so that they can do what they have to do at the moment we want them to do it. "Get in the shower", "Eat", "Dress" and similar commands are verbalized daily by parents and we always expect the same thing, blind obedience ipso facto.
Surprised we stay when instead of doing things they respond to us "Now I go!" and they take time to come, when they say "a moment!" and take time to listen to us or "Wait a little!" and certainly make us wait. Surprised, and some parents even get angry because "now is NOW", because "neither wait nor wait" and "neither moment nor anything, come now!". The grace of the matter is that we don't realize, parents, that apparently we can't wait, when they are used to it.
How many times do they call you?
Stand just a moment to think how many are the times that in one day your child can call you. "Mom Dad!". Stop to think, since he knows how to say mom and dad how many times he has called you. Well, now stop to think about how many of those occasions you have come to the call instantly, without delay, on the spot. It is possible that when your son or daughter was a child you would come right away. It is possible that you immediately left what you did and went to see what he wanted, but it is very possible that, as he has grown, the time you make him wait has also grown.
How long does it take to go?
Thats what I refer. When they call you, How long does it take to go? There are parents who spend the day in the "I'm going!", "Just a moment!" and the "Wait a little!", making your children wait. There are some who later do not even come if the child does not insist. We are true masters of the scene, making our children have to wait because we are doing something unattainable. Well, in the face of such a lesson, in the face of such an example, do we want them to listen to us at the moment?
Yes, we want it, but it's not fair. It is not because when they call us, they do it because they think it is important that you go (even if it doesn't seem important to you what they are doing), just as when you call them you do it because it seems important that they come and do what Tell them what they have to do (even if they don't think it's important).
So we have to pay attention to them at the moment?
I don't say that, let's not go to the other extreme now. What I try to say is that every time they make us wait they do it because, or what they are doing is important, or they need a few more minutes to finish, or what you tell them they have to do they don't fancy the slightest and you They make you wait for a very clear reason: they have learned to make you wait for all the times that you have made them wait. It is not a revenge, it is an apprenticeship, it is a feature of socialization, of mimicry, of knowing how interpersonal relationships work by knowing that, when someone asks you for something, you can, with a "wait a moment", get it done a few minutes after.
Where do i want to go
Well, to the point where parents realize, or we realize, that children simply do what they see and hear and that they are also able to decide what they prefer to do at all times. If they don't pay much attention to us, if they make us wait, maybe we should review a little how we behave when they call us. If we do the same, we cannot complain. Let's change, let's start paying more attention to them and taking them into account and maybe they end up doing the same. And if it cannot be, because it is impossible for us to always respond to your calls, that we also have life and obligations and responsibilities, we must be more tolerant when they make us wait.
