A few hours ago we started a topic for those first-time parents who go to the beach and want to go unnoticed to avoid looks and comments. It is a practical Guide in which we explain a series of recommendations that can serve (or not), based on those common things that most parents do (we did) at the beginning.
As they say, we sang more than clams and, besides being the center of many eyes, we attracted all unknown and well-meaning mothers and grandmothers who released their imperative advice (You know, those who tell you waiting for you to follow instantly), something that can be very, very annoying. Well, let's leave the preambles and continue with our guide.
The baby is not required to bathe
Many parents have asked me on more than one occasion, in the nursing office, when is a good time to bathe the baby, that is, from what age it can be put in the water. My answer is always the same: "when you don't cry if you put it in".
The water is cold for what they are used to, it moves a lot and there is a lot, a lot of water. The point is that many babies, when you try to put them in the water, they cry. The mother usually has less interest in bathing her, but we parents tend to be more cazurrillos and tolerant with the crying of the children and we believe that it is very funny that they bathe and that, in a little while, they will change crying for laughs.
The fact is that after crying, if they are still in the water, what happens is that they cry even more. Then the mother gets angry, takes the baby out of the water and the father is left with a face of lonely laughter in plan "well go, with the fun it is to bathe", a situation that will make you get caught yes or yes.
That said, it is not necessary that you bathe all and it is not necessary for the baby to bathe. If you want to try it, do it, but if it cries, then p'afuera, no problem. It is not necessary that you bring an inflatable bath so that you can bathe with a little water (I confess, we, with the first one, went with the bathtub everywhere) because you skip the advice of "little luggage" and because you throw the message that a beach day without water for everyone seems not to be a real beach day.
Forget newspapers, magazines and books
If it is your first summer at the beach, you may want to do some of those things you did when you were only two, like reading the newspaper, a magazine or even a book. Unless you have a baby of those SUVs, who sleep intensely anywhere, it's more than likely that you don't have time to read anything and even that you are not able to disconnect (even if the baby is asleep) as to concentrate on reading something.
If someone is watching you, he will immediately realize that you are first-time parents when he sees you reading and continuously rereading the first page of the newspaper, or if he sees that you do nothing but pick up and leave the book, always reading it on the same page, because every two by three you look up to see that everything is still in order.
Feed your child on demand
You may already know this, but if you are first-time parents and, let's say, quite recent, you may not have it yet clear: the most advisable and logical thing is to feed babies on demand. If the mother gives breast milk, it is made on demand, which means giving when she asks and not every 2 or 3 hours.
If the baby is fed artificial milk, although many pediatricians still indicate otherwise, it is also given on demand.
If your child is older and already eats food, let us all repeat: they also have to eat on demand. Another thing is that, being older, they can wait a bit to eat at a certain time, but logically, they eat when they are hungry.
I comment this because not feeding on demand is an obvious sign that you are new parents. It is a "look at those" in full force. In fact, the complete phrase is "look at those, who have the child crying from hunger and are making time for the three hours of rigor to pass." If you fail at this point you have been caught.
Do not look enviously at children older than yours
Don't even ask "what time do they have?" They have a few months longer than yours and that is why they are able to play for a little while with hookahs Beaches, you just have to see it, and hey, if they are the same age, then yours will learn to do the same soon. The moment you ask questions it seems that you envy them, that you want your child to be like that, that you want to pass this stage so that your beach days are more similar to what they were before. It is as if you did not control it. It's as if you were a first-time father. But you are not, remember, you are not. Repeat with me "I'm not a first-time, you won't hunt me, I have it under control."
Mind you, it is not that more experienced parents have controlled the situation in plan "we can do what we want", because it is not so. When you have children you will not be able to go to the beach like never before, nor read books, magazines or newspapers, but at least you know what the thing is about, you know when they start playing and you know what to do if something gets twisted at some point (it they take sand to the mouth, the eyes, they fall, they swallow water, etc.).
If you wear water diapers ...
If you wear water diapers, since you use them, unless you know how they work, because here a server had serious problems the first time his son screwed up in one of them. They are panties diapers, who get down the legs from below and, since they have no hooks, I wanted to take it off from the same place I had put it on, come on, an impressive hideout that I could avoid when Miriam told me something like "what the fuck are you doing?".
The sides break very easily with the hands and thus it is much easier and hygienic (and logical) to remove them. Anyway, if you realize that your child does not want to bathe, do not buy them (they are typical of first-time parents). Keep using the usual ones and period. We bought them with the first one and for the following babies we omitted them, because either they did not bathe, or we put a swimsuit on them for the short time of bathing.
If you get caught in the end
Anyway, if in the end you get caught, be calm, that in a few years the wheel will change and you will be the experienced parents who will go to the beach with your offspring as who does every day, ready to plant your lookout and look for clues and traces of real first-time parents, so you can address your partner and tell him that: " Look at those ... "
