A few months ago I will be honest with all the readers of Babies and more (as if it were a novelty ... I spend the day talking about my family) when I told them that I was not sure if, after two children, they went in search of the third.
As well, now the third one is on its way And I want to explain my first feelings. It is only a small "chickpea" or perhaps a "lens", well, it is larger because it is around 6 cm, but we have already been able to see it on ultrasound and we have already been able to hear his heart.
Listening to it is usually the most exciting moment of this event, especially at the first ultrasound, when I still had only eight weeks and when looking at it, a definite form was not appreciated. Now, with twelve weeks, we could see the image you have above, a little baby who gives his little jumps and even greets with the little hand (to which my children responded by also waving to the monitor).
The first feelings of a future father
My first feelings about my future third child are a mixture of enthusiasm, joy and "my mother, where have I gone."
This summer Aran, the little one, who is now two and a half years old, has started to be less baby and has started to be more child, playing more with his brother and also spending more time with me and even alone, something that just a long time ago . This has meant that there were many moments when dad and mom saw each other with their hands free, to put it in some way, and watching our little ones like two children with great autonomy and less dependence.
Now that the road was paved and now that we could begin to be more "free", pregnant again. This is how I would explain the part of the “where I have gone”, to which we would have to add the economic situation that the country is going through and the uncertainty in which the health professionals move, which We do not know if in a few months we will continue to maintain our job.
On the other hand there is joy and illusion, which logically surpass the previous point. I have 5 brothers, so I know what it is to live wearing inherited clothes, taking advantage of toys until they lose color, sharing everything with others and having much less than what children have now. I know what it is and the reality is that I do not remember that I was missing anything on a material level because I did not miss anything, perhaps because I had siblings to play with or perhaps because the one who does not know opulence cannot envy it.
By this I mean that if at some point the belt has to be tightened a little more, then it is tightened. One more mouth will not make us poor, and less a mouth of a son of mine, who if he goes out like his brothers we will have no reason to worry: They are very thrifty with food (Come on, they eat very little).
This third child arrives in what I consider to be the best moment on an emotional level, although at a somewhat worse time on a physical level. Now I work more, I sleep less, I don't have much time to exercise and in general I feel more tired than 6 years ago, when I was waiting for the arrival of my first child. That said it seems to be 50 years old, but it is not like that, I am 32 years old, so in spite of everything, I still have rope for a while and I am still strong and light (although a few joints crunch me already), so that problem to have another child, none.
Emotionally I am in one of the most stable moments of my life, which does not mean that it is stable, eye, that maturing and learning is done throughout life. However, there is little left of Armando who did not know where he was when he decided to have his first child, and the phase of maximum struggle against everything and against all of Armando waiting for his second son, always swimming against the current, is already over.
Now I am the same but calmer, more leisurely (if possible), more rational and more conciliatory. Now I live and let live (or I try), so, as far as parenting is concerned, I have managed to make a dent with my new principles, I have learned to defend them and (the last phase) I have learned to live with those who do not they follow them, nor accept them. In other words, I have known how to be tolerant and respectful of those who have not been with me, and that gives a lot of peace.
When it comes to caring for and raising my third baby, I have the peace of mind of considering myself already a father with a bachelor's degree (5 years of experience) and the serenity of knowing that I will have the patience necessary to push forward (or so I hope, because I don't It is the same a child as three, when keeping his head in place). If I lost it, then I will wake up to find it again, that my next child deserves it.
And how is mom, in her third pregnancy?
If you ask me about the mother, just say that this third pregnancy is being the worst of the three. Many nausea, horrible dizziness, the heat of summer and the feeling of helplessness in not being able to do everything that they did before make this first quarter the worst they have ever lived.
Hopefully, now that you have completed twelve weeks, all these annoying symptoms go away, so you can start enjoying pregnancy as it deserves.
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