Pregnant women tend to be a kind of magnet for others: they receive compliments and special attention, but they can also start listening to a lot of unsolicited advice and even comments about the notorious changes in their body.
But the latter is not something that everyone likes, and that is why A woman has posted a message: pregnancy is not an invitation to comment on a woman's body.
If you are a mother or are about to be soon, you may have heard one of those phrases: "You are huge!", "Are you sure they're not twins?"or"How fast your belly has grown!"And although most of them probably do not come with bad intentions, they can affect your mood.
And this is exactly what Rachel Platten shares in her Instagram account, an American singer who is waiting for her first baby, and who recently received a comment from a known person about his pregnant body.
hi so yesterday an (excited) acquaintance told me wow your hips and butt look way bigger So cool UMMMM. Then I cried for 30 minutes. Because ive also noticed my body changing because DUH Im making a human but Im like oh Im being hard on myself no one can tell. But when she pointed it out publicly it stung so bad For so long i have had to keep my body a certain way and its NICE and freeing to just let it do what it needs to and Im proud that Im letting my baby get all the nourishment it needs. BUT… Can we just put it out there that it is never cool to tell any woman their ass got bigger (or smaller). Just dont comment. Even if youre excited because it signals to you the miracle of life is happening - its still our bodies and its sensitive Ok thanks as long as we all agree.
Hello, yesterday a person I know told me "wow, your hips and your butt look huge, how cool". Ummm ... and then I cried for 30 minutes. Because I have also noticed that my body is changing because I am creating a human being, but I think "oh, I am being too hard on myself, nobody can notice." But then she comes and says it publicly and it hurt a lot. For a long time I have tried to keep my body in a certain way, and it is nice and liberating to let it do what it has to do; I am proud to give my baby all the care he needs. BUT ... we can clarify that it is never okay to tell a woman that her butt has grown (or has become small). Just don't comment. Even if you are excited because it tells you that the miracle of life is happening, it is still our body and is a sensitive issue. Thank you and I hope we all agree.
What Rachel has published is just an example of the comments that many pregnant women receive daily. And is that Some people see pregnancy as an occasion to comment on another woman's body.
Of course, when it comes to a compliment of the style "bright / happy lights"or"pregnancy has been good for you"is something that gives pleasure and joy to hear. But when you make observations about how much or little someone has gained weight because of this, it is not a pleasant thing.
While there will be some women who do not mind listening to this type of comment, remember that pregnancy is a stage in which our hormones are in the air and it is easy to be more sensitive to certain kinds of opinions.
So instead of comment on the body of a pregnant woman, we better choose to make positive comments and ask how you have felt or if you need help with any situation or concern you have.
