When Eva decided to have a baby, she ran into the face of the problem of infertility. Months of fruitless search, infertility treatments with negative results, tears, despair, biochemical abortions ... and finally the long-awaited pregnancy!
Three years after the last treatment, Eva saw her dream of being a mother fulfilled and he decided to write his complicated, and at the same time hopeful experience, in a book called "Nobody said it was easy (diary of an infertile)", with which he intends to accompany and help other women in their same situation.
Eva states that if she had known, when she began her path of infertility, that after three years of walking he would meet his twins, I would have traveled it differently; perhaps with greater optimism and illusion.
And is that walking the path of infertility, going from treatment to treatment and checking how your dream moves away at times is one of the hardest experiences that a couple can go through.
We wanted to talk to Eva because we believe her words, from his perspective as a mother after living the experience of infertility, can serve as support, accompaniment and understanding to all those women who are going through this hard process right now.
How was your experience with infertility?
Being very young, I was diagnosed with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) and They told me that maybe when I wanted to be a mother I would need some help, but I didn't worry that it was very common and nothing serious. I never imagined that it would be so much help that I would end up needing.
I started looking for pregnancy in January 2013 and at the end of that same year I had to start with assisted reproduction treatments because my period did not appear. As at first it seemed that the only problem my husband and I had was that I didn't ovulate naturallyThe doctors told me that we would get the pregnancy relatively quickly and without having to end up with In Vitro Fertilization.
So, I started with a little invasive treatment that consisted of ovulation inducing pills. We made 6 cycles of this treatment. All of them negative.
Then we move on to another treatment that consists of ovulation induction by injectable hormones. I had to prick my belly every day for a large part of my cycle.
In addition, relationships were programmed. This means that the doctors controlled my ovulation by ultrasound and, when I was about to ovulate, they told me which days I should have sex. We made three cycles of this treatment. All of them negative.
We had to move on to artificial inseminations. We go through four artificial inseminations, all of them negative, except the second one, which was the first time I saw a positive in a pregnancy test, but that ended in a biochemical abortion.
"The worst thing about going through so many treatments is not the punctures in the belly, or the medical controls, or the operating room. The worst thing about going through infertility is feeling like a mother and not having a baby."Finally, we end up resorting to In Vitro Fertilization, and here yes, I got the long-awaited positive.
What memories bring you all those experiences?
I had a very bad time physically. I had the typical ills of a pregnancy but without being pregnant and, to top it off I thought I was going through all that without anyone guaranteeing me if in the end I could get it.
"If someone had told me that after three years I would get it, without a doubt, I would have lived the process differently, but going through everything without knowing if you can be a mother is the worst."Even so, Not everything that has to do with infertility is negative. I have met wonderful women who today are great friends of mine. In addition, I was fortunate to be surrounded by a very human medical team, of which I only have words of thanks.
Also, being a lawyer, almost without wanting to or proposing it, I ended up specializing in assisted human reproduction. Legal branch that has been very enriching and that It allows me to help patients and clinics.
How did the idea of writing "Nobody said it was easy (diary of an infertile)"?
This book is my story with infertility and, after all, the story of my children, how they came to this world after much struggle and many fertility treatments involved.
"Nobody said it was easy (diary of an infertile)" was initially an anonymous blog that my husband created me so that I could let off steam and so that I could share my path to motherhood with other women.
I wrote on the blog for more than a year and a half and it explained everything I was going through: treatments, medication, results, tests, feelings, mood, reflections, pregnancy and, finally, childbirth.
When my children were born, I posted the postpartum blog on the blog, ending my infertility diary and the blog, but some time later, many girls kept leaving me very nice and inspiring comments.
Most of them were grateful that I had shared my story because that helped them feel better and realize that they are not the only ones who have passed, nor will they go through, the hard and unfair path of infertility. Fruit of those comments and that affection received it occurred to me to pass my diary to book format and publish it.
When I decided to publish the book I did not imagine that it would have such a good reception, nor that the feedback would be so good. At first I even hesitated to publish it, but I am very happy to have done it.
"I know that my book is helping other women not to feel alone and to know that despite everything, dreams can be fulfilled."Though the book picks up a very hard part of my life, the worst to date I would say, ends with the best of the finals because I could become a mother and I have two beautiful children for whom, without a doubt, would go through all that once and a thousand times.
And after a hard process ... twins!
In In Vitro Fertilization they transferred me two embryoss and the result in blood of the hormone that determines pregnancy had been high, so, it was within our plans that the two embryos would have stayed with us.
Photo Via Eva Deiros But really, when I think about how I was aware and I knew that pregnancy really was evolving and that there were two, the memory of the day of the first ultrasound comes to mind.
I will never forget how I was in the doctor's room, with indescribable nerves, and I saw the reaction of the nurse to see the ultrasound screen and how the doctor said immediately "what we imagined." Automatically, he turned the screen towards me and said "what do you see?" I soon answered "Are two! no?"
"I thought it was incredible to have two hearts beating hard inside me and that none of them were mine."The first weeks of pregnancy were hard because I suffered ovarian hyperstimulation as a result of the stimulation of In Vitro Fertilization; but knowing that she was pregnant and that the pregnancy was going well made any more bearable evil.
Being a twin pregnancy, in this case of twins, they cataloged me as a risk and I had to do relative rest at home, but still I lived it very intensely and in a very happy way. I have never felt as full and full of life as when I was pregnant.
And finally, the day of delivery arrived. Was a vaginal delivery with epidural and I remember it as the best day of my life till the date.
The kids held on like champions inside. They were born on April 23, 2016, week 36 + 5 of gestation with a difference of 7 minutes between them. In addition, they were born with good weight and did not have to go to incubator, which was something that overwhelmed me.
"The adventure of my breastfeeding"
After the birth of their twins, Eva decided to write a second book titled "The adventure of my breastfeeding" to share your experience with breastfeeding of two babies, an experience that at the beginning did not turn out to be as expected.
I decided to write my experience with breastfeeding because what I lived during the first months with breastfeeding did not come a little closer to my preconceived idea of what breastfeeding was or what I expected.
The ads always show great women breastfeeding their children with a smile from ear to ear and, it turns out, that It gave me a lot of pain, cracks and a significant lack of sleep for me. During the first months I did not rest more than an hour between take and take.
Further, when I talked to any nursing mother or that he had tried to establish an unsuccessful breastfeeding, all, absolutely all, agreed on the same thing: "Breastfeeding hurts and is very sacrificed." And this, why don't we shout it and let everyone know?
It would have helped me a lot to know other personal experiences and know what I was facing. That is the purpose of the book, to help other women who want to breastfeed their children.
The person who reads the book will find the sincere experience of a mother who, in spite of all the inconveniences that the beginning of a breastfeeding has, managed not only to establish it, but also to enjoy it.
The book also includes things that I would change or do differently if I went back, compilation of books and tools for breastfeeding that helped me or how I cope with social pressure to the dreaded phrases: When are you going to remove the tit? or Do you still have milk"
Eva is very happy, and it shows. He admits that being a mother of twins is tired, but he never complains about it or his bad nights, because for Eva the hard nights were those he spent yearning to cradle a baby while undergoing fertility processes.
Eva hopes that her experience can sow hope in the hearts of other women who are currently traveling the difficult path of infertilityIn Babies and More Infertility, Twin Pregnancy, Infertility
No one said it was easy (diary of an infertile)
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The adventure of my breastfeeding
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