When I knew I was going to have twins, I decided that unless they asked me directly, I would not say that two were coming because I knew what I was facing, although I must admit that I enjoyed the question a lot: "Will it be a boy or a girl?" When he answered "both," seeing the person's face was a poem.
Today I look like a traveling circus because it's going out and people don't stop looking at me and pointing at me. Have you never seen twins? The truth is that it makes me funny until the time comes when these people cross the personal plane looking for morbidity and without understanding that there are things that Do not ask parents of twins or twins. Do you want to know which ones?
They are natural?
I recognize it, I hate that question. They have done it to me so many times that it upsets me to unexplained limits. First, because of the poor approach to the phrase. Natural? Nor that my children were made of a strange material! The second because it does not matter that the person who formulates it has confidence with you or not, everyone believes they have the right to know if you have undergone fertility treatment. Really this you should never ask yourself.
In my case it was something that decided genetics, but I know how difficult it is for many couples to get pregnant and undergo treatment so asking this type of question is removing that pain and interfering with something very personal.
In Babies and more Great joys and small disadvantages of having twins or twinsDo you breastfeed them both?
It's seeing two creatures and everyone wants to know if you are able to breastfeed two babies. Everyone wants to know specific data. Already with my first child it happened to me, because with two I knew that it would be even more morbid to know. "Well yes, I breastfeed and I even get milk to freeze." Eyes as dishes remain.
In which positions do you breastfeed?
If you have answered yes to the previous question, this one is inevitable. In my case they have asked me for almost a demonstration. In fact, everyone who has seen my twin cushion in my house wanted to know how it worked, how I placed the babies ... I recognize that until I had no twins I had no idea how to feed two children at the same time but from there to ask a mother for that ... And of course when I have given all my explanation always someone drops something like "you will spend the day with the tit out, right?". Let's see, it is true that it takes a long time to breastfeed two babies but if you adapt and learn to give them at the same time it doesn't take much longer than if you had one. It is a matter of organization.
I'm going to take one!
This pisses off my oldest son a lot. I go down the street, a stranger stops me, makes a couple of carantos to my twins and then tells my oldest son that he is going to rob one of his brothers. If you saw his face ... On one occasion he said "Mom, the brothers are ours and we don't give them away." Please stop threatening to kidnap children to your older siblings.
You will not have more, right?
There is always someone willing to control the birth rate. They see you with three children and think you're crazy. Yes the The average in Spain is 1.33 children! How do you think of having 3! "After this you won't have more, right? You could get twins again!" If you saw my grandmother who had seven children ...
How brown!
There are those who assume that you are not happy for the news. that having twins or twins is really a problem and they say "my mother, surely you took a dislike." Well no, I'm very happy, they are two babies, double joy. That is my answer. It's hard yes, but why will I think it's bad news?
In Babies and more, are you going to have twins or twins? This is all you need!What luck, the couple!
"Good thing they are boy and girl." Well, lady would have loved them the same if they had been the same sex. In fact, my husband preferred that they be two girls and I as they came so that as you see it would have been as it would have been, they made us equally happy. But this is like when you only expect a baby and a child comes and someone quickly tells you "Now for the girl". Well the same.
Which one is more rebellious?
My babies are only nine months old and have already asked me this question. I don't think that young children can be bad. In any case some more restless but that we take for granted that one is worse than the other ...
They do not look alike
They have asked me if they were of different pregnancies and of course, my face has been a poem. It is true that my son is brown with blue eyes and my daughter has dark hair and eyes, but I think it is obvious that they cannot take nine months by size.
In Babies and more At bedtime, twins and twins, better together or apart? What is your favorite?
Let's see, this is not a shirt that I wear on Saturday night, they are my children and although I remember that as a child I told my mother that my brother was her favorite. It is true what my mother told me for years, there is no favorite.
The elder will be jealous
They always take it for granted that my oldest son is having a terrible time and the truth is that until now he has not been jealous. On the contrary, he takes care of his brothers, gives them kisses, hugs. I also think that he sees that it is not that we do not have time for him, but that there is no time for any of the three and he understands it and as soon as we have a little relaxation, we always do things in family.
As you can see, there are many indiscreet questions and comments but not only the parents of multiple people suffer, what "strange" things have you ever been asked?
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