Now that another year is about to end, it is a tradition for many people to create goals or goals to accomplish in the next year. Most of these purposes are focused on personal desires or challenges, which we consider as a way to continue growing and be better people. When we become fathers and mothers, these purposes now include something related to our upbringing and our children.
A year ago I shared my seven purposes as a mother for this 2017 that is about to say goodbye, so today I would like to make an analysis about them, to see which ones I got progress on and which ones I need to continue working on.
Why make a count?
At this time, the most common is to look to the future, with hope and thousands of plans for the year that is about to begin. But I also believe that it is a good time to summarize and analyze what we have experienced this year, the lessons we learned, the mistakes we made and the things we can improve on.
By counting our purposes, we can continue working on them, because many times due to various situations, it is difficult for us to fulfill them, but the fact that one year ends does not mean that nothing has been learned and we can take that same learning as an impulse to move forward next year.
My seven purposes as a mother
When we become mother and fathers, We have great strength that motivates us: our children. Thanks to them we can not only improve some aspects of our lives, but also receive lessons from them. Now I share what were my seven purposes and of which we will surely share some if you are a mother.
1. Spend more quality time with my daughter
I think many of us will identify with this. The current pace of life often requires both parents to work and the time spent with their children is somewhat reduced. A year ago, my daughter did not go to school, I worked from home and the truth ... it was total chaos. As much as I tried to organize, I did not succeed and many times I ended up working with her sitting on my legs or making advances of 20 minutes every hour, without focusing 100% on one of the two things.
I was reluctant to put my daughter in school, I felt like I was very young and I didn't want to miss a moment of her day. Now he is three and a half years old, and I must say that the one who has entered preschool since the first grade (only the third one is mandatory in Mexico) helped us find that balance we were looking for so much. Now when I go to school for her, my afternoons are exclusively for being together. I try that when I am with her it is zero work, zero pending. Of course, I can still improve and I will continue to do so, but I believe that I have fulfilled this purpose.
2. Learn with and from my daughter
This is one of those purposes that are an integral part of being parents. We always think that it is we who will teach them everything there is to know, but what a surprise we get when they leave us valuable life lessons.
For example, this year my daughter reminded me that my day will depend on my attitude, that things often have a simple and practical solution, and that I should enjoy the moment more, as well as laugh without reservations. I know there is still much to learn from her and I am ready to continue doing it.
3. Listen carefully to what my daughter thinks and feels
My third purpose began to be easy when Lucia entered the school. By having a defined schedule to work freely, I found it easier to be focused on what she needed. In addition, at the beginning of this year he finally let go speaking and now he easily tells me what he feels and we have conversations about all the issues that occur to us.
4. Be more patient
Uff, patience. That all parents beg to heaven send us more and more every day. I will be very sincere: I have not improved much on this, especially it has cost me work in recent months, as we enter a somewhat difficult stage of tantrums and sometimes I find it difficult to remain calm. It is definitely a purpose in which I need to focus my energies and keep workingWell, being a mother, patience is something I should always have.
5. Avoid screaming and scolding
This goes hand in hand with being more patient and although I have not achieved it in its entirety, I do my best not to shout at her, because that is not how she will learn to do things. Although I have found some tools not to fall for this, I need to continue working on it.
6. Learn to love my body
Some time ago we shared a study that said having children could reduce women's self-esteem for up to three years, and interestingly, this year Lucia reached her third birthday and I finally felt that I was recovering my identity and my body, after having gone through an incredible transformation when I became a mother.
Honestly, I have not yet reached that stage of "loving" my body as it is, but I find myself working to take care of it more and focus on everything wonderful that it is capable of doing, instead of seeing its imperfections.
7. Don't forget me
Along with regaining my identity, I returned to retake many interests that I had before becoming a mother. It is true that time is not something about us when we have children, but it is very important to set aside small moments in the day to dedicate some time to ourselves. Slowly I'm doing things for me and me again, of course, without neglecting my responsibility as a mom.
How was your purpose this year?
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