Only six days. In solo six days as a mother singer Soraya She has already been immersed in the so-called "war of the mothers" and has received, as they say, from all sides. So much so that she herself has had to admit that if what he has done is to be a bad mother, well yes, he is a bad mother.
A shared pregnancy
As we read in Vanitatis, Soraya has been sharing with her followers the progress of her pregnancy, some ultrasound and even a surprise she made to her partner, to make people participate in the changes, illusions, hopes, etc.
The culmination of all this came a few days ago when her daughter Manuela was born and she was finally able to share her happiness with everyone. People received the news with emotion and congratulations were not long in coming:
A shared publication of Soraya Arnelas (@ soraya82) on Feb. 26, 2017 at 3:39 PST
Six days later he went to dinner with his father
And this is where it all starts. Six days after being a mother, Soraya shared a photo with which he explained that he had gone for a romantic dinner with his partner: "Our first week of daddies! @Michaelhg and I went out to celebrate it in the best place there could be!" . And this is when the comments began to arrive: people who did not understand to go out to dinner leaving the baby at home; people who didn't understand that they had to celebrate daddy's week without the girl; people who were surprised that he could do something like that, etc.
A shared post by Soraya Arnelas (@ soraya82) on Mar 2, 2017 at 3:24 PST
Before the comments, which overlapped with others that gave him unconditional support, the singer decided to answer: “That you do not do it does not mean that I cannot / should / want to do… Everyone knows what they have to do with their children and with their life ... let's not start giving lessons ".
And as they usually say: "Two will not discuss if one does not want to". Soraya's words only lit the flame even more, causing even more comments and criticism.
So seeing that the thing was getting worse, he decided to settle the matter with the following text:
Someday I will tell you the chapter of those moms who cannot breastfeed their children and feed with bottles ... then those children stay at home for two and a half hours, asleep, because they are 6-day-old babies, taking care of a baby EXCEPTIONAL way for their grandparents while their parents, who love each other to infinity, spend time together and spend time, as it should be, because we love our children, but I LOVE MY COUPLE AS I DO NOT LOVE ANYONE ELSE. 6-day-old children who sleep, feed and do their little things ... nothing more, because they are six-day-old babies ... there isn't much else ... IF THAT IS BEING A BAD MOTHER, I AM A BAD MOTHER !! But still, it is my life and my family. THANK YOU
The dangers of explaining what you do and when you do it
It is clear that the problem is not yours; It's not from Soraya. She can do what she wants, when she wants and how she wants (her daughter is not abandoned, but in the care of grandparents). He is free to do so and others should respect his decisions and his way of maternating.
Respect does not mean having to agree: surely many would not go to dinner on the sixth day with the couple leaving the girl at home, but that does not mean that they have to criticize who does not.
The problem is not his, but who takes advantage of the possibility of writing to leave an opinion that she has not asked for. And that is the danger of explaining what you do, when you do it, how you do it and why. You are a public character, you make your life public, or certain facets of it, and the rest think that, by making it public, you can freely comment on the decisions you make.
Will people change? Will you stop doing it? Perhaps in the future, yes, the mothers' war disappears and some are able to support the others, regardless of the way each one proceeds; but as for now it does not happen, perhaps the most sensible thing is to share other things in your life. Perhaps more related to his professional life, which is why he is known. But this, of course, is her decision.
Only six days after becoming a mother has already entered fully in the mothers war. Will you be able to stay out?
Photos | Soraya Instagram
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